tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3931116591702224057.post7013855555653116079..comments2023-10-08T06:13:55.941-07:00Comments on More Than Serving Tea: Spiritual Self-EsteemNikkihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16122351215880516048noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3931116591702224057.post-4529984051056714812007-04-17T16:42:00.000-07:002007-04-17T16:42:00.000-07:00I feel a bit concerned b/c most of the issues I've...I feel a bit concerned b/c most of the issues I've found have meant making a special effort for men to feel safe in the gender discussion. (I purposely title my gender workshops/seminars towards men.) In some ways, it feels like it's puts a double pressure on the marginalized group to both bring up pain as well as host the pain-inflictor. But I see a similar parallel in race discussions. <BR/><BR/>The times where there hasn't been a special effort to make the dominant group feel "safe" and a more balanced discussion arises is when the dominant group has invited the "other" voice to speak. <BR/><BR/>I wonder if it's just threatening when its a person who's not in power that is bringing up an issue. <BR/>If that's the case, I do think we need strong partnership on both sides of issues to create spaces to dialogue.Nikkihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16122351215880516048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3931116591702224057.post-17471790847181748202007-04-01T22:42:00.000-07:002007-04-01T22:42:00.000-07:00I'm not sure that we can talk about this and other...I'm not sure that we can talk about this and other issues without pain, but I'm certain that if we allow the fear of exposing or sharing that pain to stop us from having the conversations we fall so very short. As for the defensiveness - I'll be the first to confess I struggle with a deep desire to engage in dialogue but often fall behind my wall of defensiveness.Kathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09422007833946364808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3931116591702224057.post-82438920638831903082007-03-30T21:01:00.000-07:002007-03-30T21:01:00.000-07:00It is a challenging question: how can we talk abou...It is a challenging question: how can we talk about such a fundamentally human issue without pain and defensiveness?elderjhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12436045119491976602noreply@blogger.com